93 Things We Learned from Our Last Eleven Marriages

Publisher Marketing: This book was written to enrich your relationships regardless of your marital status. If you have never been married we realize all this may be a little overwhelming. "If they couldn't make it work after five tries, what chances do I have?" You just may be thinking this. This book is especially written for you. We are the crash test dummies that survived to tell you what not to do, so that you can enjoy a happy fulfilled marriage. We have isolated the issues you need to address before and during your marriage so that you don't end up as another statistic. Just think of the possibilities. A golden anniversary, grand-kids, the works! Some chapters are amplifications of topics already discussed and are meant to reinforce certain points. Divorce is painful not only for the couple involved, but also for their extended families, friends, and indirectly to the community at large. But most of all, divorce hurts children. A lot of the tragedy we see on the six o'clock news can be traced back to a broken home. Strong families mean happier, safer neighborhoods, and ultimately a more peaceful world. For those of you who are already married, we outline some do's and don'ts. Ours were also happy marriages at one time. If your marriage happens to be going through a stale phase, as most marriages will on occasion, it's never too late to revitalize it, provided you both work at it. Compared to the emotional and financial cost of a divorce, the cost of making personal adjustments by taking in some counseling or reading a few self-help books is minor. Just remember: it takes two to tango. A commitment to make it work by both of you is critical to your success. If you were once married and now find yourself single again due to an untimely death or a divorce, we want to assure you that life is still very much worth living. Life happens to all of us. You are definitely not alone. We have felt the same devastating anguish and solitude. Life can still be beautiful. Take the proper time to heal. This is key. Make it a top priority. Be good to yourself that you may be good to others. We wouldn't have written this book if we didn't believe in the verbs "To Love" and "To Cherish." How to express love in a love-less selfish world is a real challenge. We recommend you begin by examining your life's patterns. What has motivated your choices in the past? What have you learned about yourself over the years? How have you changed as a person? We'll look more closely at the reasons people marry and what "True Love" entails. "This book is a hilarious look at the ups and downs involved with one of the most revered institutions in the world. The authors certainly can speak from experience! A great read for people who are thinking about getting married, who have been married a long time or have been married many times. Bravo!" - Richard Waryn. Chief Executive Officer of Centurion Capital, and former Managing Director of Dubai Capital Group's private equity activities in the CIS Region. He also served as a Director of AIG's Emerging Markets Partnership, and at the World Bank Group's International Finance Corporation (IFC) as an Investment Officer from 1991 to 1993. Contributor Bio:  Adams, Paul PAUL ADAMS is an associate professor of journalism and communications at Carleton University, and a veteran of CBC Television's "The National", CBC Radio, and the "Globe and Mail". His specialty is political reporting, and he has been posted in the Middle East, Ottawa, Toronto, Winnipeg, and Edmonton. Formerly he worked for EKOS Research, where he managed political polling conducted for the "Toronto Star", "La Presse", and the CBC. He is author of "Summer of the Heart: Saving Alexandre", which was shortlisted for the Writers' Trust biography prize in 2004.